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Maureen L. Bonatch

Ways to Win My Heart That Isn't A… Creepy Hannibal Lecter Way

Romance is always in season, even for a paranormal writer like me, but especially this month. Sure I could spout off the usual things that most ladies love like chocolate, wine, candlelight, romantic movies and a bouquet, but I’m not going to. It’s true that I absolutely love all those things. But by the end of the night I’ve eaten the chocolate, drank the wine, burnt the candle, watched the movie and my flowers are quivering in fear (black thumb here, remember? I’m like Hannibal Lecter to plants.).

I’ll tell you ways to genuinely win my heart—and not in a creepy Hannibal Lecter way. Because no matter how creepy the critter, or how vile the villain, deep down we’re all looking for love and perhaps five other “L’s”. Such as for people to shut up and …

Are You Listening?
There is nothing more extraordinary than a good listener. You know the type; the person who actually listens when you talk instead of formulating what they’re going to say when you stop talking. Or interrupting so they can hurry up and add their contribution to the conversation. There aren’t too many genuine listeners; otherwise therapists wouldn’t be paid so well. But really it’s…

The Little Things That Really Are The Big Things
You see all these extravagant gifts celebrities get for each other like bajillion carat bling that blinds anyone within a mile shouting damn look how much I love this person. Besides the inability to wear the thing anywhere without a bodyguard and risking taking out your own eye, it’s not as endearing as little everyday gestures that aren’t meant to impress. They’re just meant to say; “I made your favorite dinner/coffee/rented this movie because I know you like it.” These are the kind of gestures that build…

Longevity—Persevering For the Long Run
If you skipped ahead in the post to here then get your mind out of the gutter. This post might be about hearts and love and stuff but we’re keeping that behind closed doors closed. I’m talking about after the honeymoon period ends and everything that glittered at the start of the relationship has faded to dull. Yet you still find those things endearing. You’re truly happy with the routine you’ve created with each other and find ways to…

Laughter Is Like a Love Potion
When you know each other so well that your humor has meshed. You know how to laugh at yourself and enjoy laughing together. Having a sense of humor is crucial to winning my heart. Heck I’d almost serve it up to Hannibal myself—almost. But that would be…

Sure It’s Ludicrous But …
I am a paranormal/fantasy writer. So if you really want to know how to win my heart it would go something like this: “Hello gorgeous! Go ahead and relax with that glass of wine with that gourmet dinner. The cleaning crew has finished cleaning the house from top to bottom and I’ve booked our weekend escape. Don’t worry, I insist that you bring your laptop—and your most comfortable sweatpants—since you’ll have so much free time to just write. Oh and don’t forget your dessert. The entire meal and dessert is calorie free thanks to the calorie blocker I invented that made us rich.”

Like I said, it’s a fantasy.

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Maureen Bonatch grew up in small town Pennsylvania and her love of the four seasons—hockey, biking, sweat pants and hibernation—keeps her there. While immersed in writing or reading paranormal romance and fantasy, she survives on caffeine, wine, music, and laughter. A feisty Shih Tzu keeps her in line.
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